In this day and age, there are a myriad of apps available for people to pursue online dating. One of the more popular apps is Bumble.
However, recently, it seemed that Bumble might be being exclusionary — and the person on the receiving end of the ostracism was none other than Sharon Stone.
In a tweet this morning, the 62-year-old actress wrote: “I went on the @bumble dating [site] and they closed my account. Some users reported that it couldn’t possibly be me! Hey @bumble, is being me exclusionary?”
Stone ended her tweet saying: “Don’t shut me out of the hive.”
A few hours later, Bumble’s editorial director Clare O’Conner tweeted back “We’re on the case. Trust us, we *definitely* want you on the Hive.”
Shortly after that, Bumble said that they had unblocked her account and “ensured that this won’t happen again.” Order has been restored in the universe and everything makes sense again: especially since Bumble is known for being inclusive towards older users.
3 common dating mistakes people over 50 make
Maybe you haven’t been banned from any dating sites, but you’re still having trouble finding love. You’re not alone! We spoke to dating and relationship experts about the biggest ways we self-sabotage.
1. Not dedicating enough time
Singles over 50 who are new to dating don’t always know how much time dating can involve. By middle age, you may already have a full social life, a job, and family demands, which means you may have to make some space for someone new.
Instead: Try to balance your life and create “we” time with your potential mate before you get too deep and blend families, says Julie Spira, CEO of CyberDatingExpert.com, who has been coaching singles for over 20 years.
“At the end of the day, your kids will grow up and have separate lives — and so will their kids. You both need to focus on your new relationship as something that could last for the rest of your life.”
2. Not being honest and upfront about your needs
While baring your soul can leave you feeling vulnerable, if you never ask for what you want, how will you ever get it?
“Pretending you really have no expectations or demands for the relationship, conveys you are happy with whatever course it may take,” says Tarra Duford Ph.D., MFT, a relationship specialist and CEO of Family Matters Counseling Group in Orlando, Fla. “Engaging in ambiguous language and behavior puts you at a disadvantage when you are trying to get your needs met.”
Instead: Express your intentions and answer all questions from a place of acceptance and understanding that there are no judgments, says Dr. Duford.
“When the question of ‘what are you looking for in a relationship’ comes up, you want to say something like, ‘I am interested in dating with the possibility of a long-term committed relationship,'” she says, if your true purpose is finding someone you can share your future with.
“You never know where a relationship will go, but you want to be clear and open about what you are interested in. Assertiveness should never be confused with being overbearing, bossy, or demanding.”
3. Giving up after a couple of bad dates
It’s an emotional rollercoaster, to be sure, but one you must ride to find the one you want to be with. The trick is not getting discouraged by uncomfortable experiences, says Joan Price, sex expert and author of Naked at Our Age.
Instead: Price suggests looking at a bad date as:
• A chance to practice dating: how to make an awkward conversation more pleasant, how much to reveal, how to elicit interesting info from our date (even if we never want to see that person again)
• A good story to tell our friends
• One step closer to the date that WILL work out!
You can find more dating tips here.